Dear Jared,

I've been dating my boyfriend for 16 months and lately my friends keep asking me when he's going to 'get serious.' Frankly, I'm happy the way we are... but I'm wondering if they have a point. I mean I do want my own kids. And I'm 37. I just don't see a need to rock the boat. Doesn't just enjoying the present moment count for something? Or am I selling myself short?

Your needs cannot be defined or determined by me, your boyfriend, your friends, or anyone else.  And so, while you're caught in limbo, it’s time for you to have the following conversation with yourself.  Is my need to have children now greater than my need to just 'be present'?  Is my need to be in a relationship greater than my need to be in the best relationship? 

Questions like these will force you to identify what's most important for you and will motivate you to make some crucial, and possibly, very difficult decisions.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers when it comes to discovering what works for you.  It's your life.  It's your dream.  But keep in mind, the journey towards getting what you want, whether it's children or a new job, can be a bumpy one.

Ultimately, you will always end up with what you value the most.  So, start having that dialogue with yourself, and when you arrive at the best answers, make your move.  You can do this!

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